An entry that leads to another site...I have not seen other pages on this link, but the page I refer you to is one that came up when I looking around for phrases and words to end a letter written to your child. The search was not fruitful toward answering my question, but lead down a few paths, this one worth sharing at a bog entitled Zen Habits.
I do not necessarily agree with all that is written but I would say it is as soft beginning.
The self love may be a prominent notion for zen but my thought is it is lacking in the basis or foundation of self love, other than sounding like you deserve love and happiness...it is not our right or something we deserve.
The underlying and overt positives from the post is love and particularly love through friendship. A natural friendship that comes about will lead us to live a good life, but it is such a friendship that we can then lift to make divine. As we live selflessly for another, a friend, we do not expect reciprocation but rather a closeness and intimacy that will allow us to become closer to God. Zen habits does have it the notion of life as journey...it is what end is our journey that will assist us in keeping on our path.